Mom forbids 16-year-old son from having a bedroom in their 2-bedroom house because she's using 2nd bedroom as a home office: 'I sleep in my parent's room.'

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  • A man laying on the floor in a room

    A teenage boy sleeps on the floor of his parents' bedroom, even though they have a second bedroom in their house.

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  • Am I the bad guy for forcefully converting my mom's office into my personal bedroom?

     just 2 small rooms and 1 tiny common washroom. The first room is obviously my parents' bedroom. However, the 2nd one is my mom's office.

  • Black and white chairs and table

    The mom's home office, which very well could be a bedroom for her son if she actually cared about him having some privacy. 

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  • It's occupied by her big table, chair, shelf and other stuff. She's very possessive of her belongings and uses that office for her part-time job. So basically, I never had my personal space. Forget a room, not even a personal little corner.

  • All I've got is a small cupboard to store all my things. I've to still sleep in my parents' room. Nobody can live in the hall because there's no Air Conditioner there. (Our city is one of the hottest in the world).

  • Shore during golden hour

    A hot country.

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  • To make things worse, I've come out to be a privacy & personal space prioritizing person. My sister (19F) left home for college last year. Imagine the living conditions when she used to live here as well.

  • I feel extremely suffocated, and have been asking my mom to empty her office to give it to me. There's already a study corner in her bedroom (which I currently use) she can make it her new working space.

  • But she strongly disagrees. Dad doesn't care at all. Recently I created some space in her office by pushing the table and other things in the corner tightly and started sleeping there. She absolutely hates

  • it. A lot of fights are happening between me and her. AITA? (Just for info, our country has no teenagers working culture, graduating from college is must even for minimum wage jobs.

  • Someone would hire a teenager only for a full time job at a wage hardly enough to fill stomach).

  • Boring-Treacle-3481 NTA. You didn't ask to be brought into this world, your parents chose to have children, and part of being a parent is making space for them emotionally and physically if possible. What makes this situation worse is that there literally IS an extra room in the house, it's just being used as a private office instead of giving you and previously your sister some level of privacy. As someone from an Asian household too, I understand that sometimes families have to share rooms bec

  • That's normal in a lot of places. But when there's an obvious spare room available, it's understandable why you'd feel frustrated that it isn't being prioritized for the kids. You're also 16 already, not a little child anymore. Wanting privacy, personal space, and even just your own corner to exist in is completely reasonable. Especially at your age where independence and identity start becoming important mentally and emotionally.

  • lemon_charlie It sounds like OP's sister was forced to share the one bedroom with OP and their parents too. Even if they can't afford a two bedroom place where OP's mother can work out of the kitchen table or something, OP is a teenage boy with no opportunity for privacy for, erm, teenage boy things.

  • 1Bid_The_Top The office existing as a spare room while a 16 year old sleeps in his parents bedroom is a choice being made every day. and he didn't even ask for much... just enough space to sleep and exist... he had to physically rearrange furniture himself just to carve out a corner says everything. hope things get a bit easie, 16 is already a hard enough age without feeling like you have nowhere to just be.

  • Inevitable_Entry6518 NTA. I lived quite in the same conditions in my childhood and I hated it really badly. I still cringe at a memory that sometimes guests came over while I was sleeping in a common room in my underwear, no one warned me, of course. My ab ive grandma could start loudly watching TV in the morning or come in the common room shouting at me that I did something wrong, way before my alarm would go off. It lead to me being very anxious and possessive, and also I have bad dreams becau

  • Cloverose2 NTA. I'm sorry you're having to go through this. As long as you're not underfoot while your mom is working, there's no reason an office for a part-time job should take priority over you. Being a parent means making sacrifices like giving up the private work space for your child's comfort. It's hard at 16, wanting more space, privacy and independence, but not having control. It's a tough situation. You're not the a_h_le for not wanting to share your parent's bedroom anymore, and for wa

  • Fiigwort NTA it's INSANE to have your teenage kid sleeping in a corner of your bedroom so that you can maintain a home office space. Switch the two around, she can manage working PART TIME in her bedroom corner for a few years until you move out. This is so wildly selfish, your parents sound awful.

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