Woman works two jobs and 60-plus-hour weeks, refuses to feel bad for sleeping in on weekends after her sister keeps showing up unannounced and getting mad at her

• Working 60-plus hours a week across two jobs leaves a person with a pretty short list of things they actually need, and near the top of that list is the ability to sleep until their body is done sleeping on the one day nobody is expecting them anywhere. That's not a luxury or a personality flaw. That's just basic math.

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• AITAH for not waking up and not opening the door when my sister shows up unannounced

  

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• Too much sleep as criticism is a classic move from people who have never personally had to recover from a week like that. It sounds like concern but it's really just discomfort with someone else's schedule not matching yours. If the person doing the sleeping is working 12-hour shifts five days a week and still managing to show up every time they're actually asked, the sleeping in on Saturday is not the problem behavior in this situation.

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• Showing up unannounced and then getting mad that nobody answered the door is its own category of entitlement. It requires genuinely believing that the other person's home and time are just kind of available on demand, and that their failure to materialize at the door within 30 minutes is some kind of personal slight. Waiting outside and calling repeatedly doesn't become more reasonable the longer it goes on. It just becomes more awkward for everyone once the door finally opens.

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• The part that really stands out here is that the sister knows. This isn't new information about this person's sleep schedule that was recently introduced. It's been a documented source of family conflict for years. Deciding to wait outside anyway and then escalating to silent treatment when it doesn't work out is not a reasonable response to a situation you essentially created with full knowledge of how it was likely to go.

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• Apologizing immediately every single time, offering to come over instead, actively trying to make it work even after being woken up, that's not the behavior of someone who doesn't care about the relationship. That's someone who keeps meeting people halfway while those people are already standing at her front door at 10am on a Saturday expecting the other half to be delivered in real time.

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