Single mom refuses to let her 4-year-old daughter's friend play at her house, even though the friend's mom has let her daughter play at her house: 'My kid isn’t allowed over there because the mom doesn’t want to clean up the mess.'

The host mom has to clean up her daughter's friend's mess, and she doesn't hear her complaining about it!

What kind of playdate/sleepover family did you grow up in? Were your parents the kinds of parents who would let your friends sleep over at your house, but would never let you sleep over at anyone else's house? Did your mom overschedule your preschool social calendar, booking 4-5 playdates per week? Did your sleepovers only consist of going over to your cousin's house and vice versa? There are many ways to facilitate play between children, and there's no single right way to do it. 

Some parents never want to host their kids' friends because they're embarrassed by the state of their house or uncomfortable with the responsibility of looking after someone else's kids. That's all well and good, but they should at least show some appreciation to their kid's friend's parents who let their kids stay at their house for hours at a time. You should at least bake them some cookies as a "thank you." In most situations, parents will switch off hosting their kids' sleepovers and playdates so their kid's friend's parent can get a little break. Or, better yet, if the parents are friends, they can hang out while their kids do too! Having a good relationship with your kid's friend's parent can be the key to making new friends after you've become a parent and seem to stop meeting new people.