'I feel like a "cash cow"': German man feels used as his girlfriend quits stable job for failing business, refuses to send 2 and 4-year old kids to full-time childcare, and pressures him to marry for financial security

She keeps the kids in a half‑day program, complains she can’t get enough done, and then blames him for not helping more. It’s the kind of circular logic that passes for modern relationship strategy. He can’t rest because she can’t work, and she can’t work because he’s working. A perfect little hamster wheel powered by guilt and overdue childcare forms.  The intimacy drought just ties the economy together. Once someone feels like the provider instead of the partner, the temperature drops. You can almost hear the therapist softly suggesting “communication” while everyone quietly admits that the real issue is burnout.