‘I can barely afford to get by at the new place on my own’: Grad student moves away for school, stops paying for groceries at fiancé’s place because her budget can’t cover it anymore, but the engineer fiancé doesn’t take it well

• Moved for school. AITA for not "wanting" to cover groceries when I seldom live there now?

  

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• Now the fiancé, who pulls in a comfortable engineering salary and gets child support, feels robbed because the weekly groceries aren’t covered for his household. Every conversation turns into a budget breakdown, with finger-pointing about who’s getting the good end of the deal and who’s allegedly repeating old relationship mistakes. The math is straightforward, he’s out a little more, she’s got nearly nothing left, and the cost of acting like a team seems to outweigh actual teamwork.

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• Arguments start, tempers flare, and suddenly a PhD becomes less about research and more about defending personal finances. Student loans and credit cards are the only backup these days, while grocery expectations just keep coming. Flying home, juggling two places, and trying to keep up appearances, all while earning a little less due to last-minute cuts, feels less like a partnership and more like a creative writing exercise in stress.

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