Coworkers invite other coworker to Friday lunch, disinvite him when he won't stop complaining: 'People stopped enjoying the lunches'

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• A group of coworkers had a tradition where they would go out for lunch after work on a Friday. They enjoyed it as it offered everyone an opportunity to unwind after the work week and decompress from the stress of their shift. 

  Things changed when another coworker was invited along to the lunches, as he wouldn't stop complaining. He always found something wrong with whatever restaurant they would go to, leaving some colleagues feeling like lunch wasn't enjoyable anymore.

  As a result, he got disinvited from the event. He complained about feeling left out, leaving one of his coworkers feeling guilty.

• Am I wrong for not inviting my coworker to our Friday lunches anymore?

  Me and some coworkers usually go out every Friday for casual lunch after work. it started as a fun little tradition to relax after stressful shifts. Few months ago we started inviting another coworker, but honestly every lunch started feeling negative after that. He complains about almost everything every single time. the food, the prices, the service, the noise, even random conversations somehow become complaints. At first we tried to ignore it because we didn’t want to be r*de, but eventually people stopped enjoying the lunches as much. So recently we stopped inviting him and now i heard he feels left out after noticing we still go without him.

  Am I wrong for wanting to protect the peaceful vibe of the group?

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• if he says anything, just respond that you thought he didn't enjoy the lunches as he complained so much

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  He is being left out, due to his behavior, which sounds miserable for everyone else.

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  I would be honest if he asks: “You complained about almost everything in the restaurant every time. You kept killing the vibe. The last thing we wanted to hear after a long week of work was a bunch of complaints. So you’re not invited.”

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  Some people have to learn it the hard way but make him aware why so he can still turn his life around.

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  Always protect the happiness. If he approaches you, just tell him he didn't seem to enjoy it because he complained so much.

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