5 employees order desserts to the office every week, enraging their 30 coworkers who they don't share food with: 'Our coworkers constantly glare at us when eating.'

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  • Three donuts on a plate next to a laptop

    Donuts that an employee ordered to be delivered to her office in the middle of the workday. 

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  • Am I the bad guy for not sharing dessert with my coworkers?

    I work in a place where there are 35 people in our department. Some of us (4-5) are foodies and enjoy ordering in desserts. It brings a little whimsy to the office. We don't flaunt it or anything, always eat in the breakroom, keep to ourselves. We share the costs of the food between the group of us.

  • There are 35 of us and ordering for the entire department has been a headache in the past, not to mention complaints about if things end up being wrong (an order of fries is forgotten, they want me to fix it for them, or pay them the difference even if it isn't my fault!). After enough, I stopped ordering for the office and our little group resorted to this.

  • Group of business people gathered by table in office against window for brainstorming and discussion of ideas and strategies

    A group of coworkers who order desserts for themselves every week that they don't share with the rest of the office.

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  • A select group of our other coworkers who don't particularly like us keep "raining on our parade". When we eat them during break they will constantly come to us saying "wow I love eating _." Or "so again?" Constantly glaring at us when eating.

  • Young woman with arms crossed looks annoyed

    An angry employee looks on as her coworkers eat desserts that she didn't pay for. 

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  • I feel like it would be one thing if they wanted to eat with us if they asked and paid into it. Then we would include them. But I think they are fully expecting us to offer them food for free, every time. If management orders for the office, they constantly are first to take the extras home.

  • There are 35 of us. We simply cannot afford to feed everyone for free. What's next, my lunch? We are grown adults by the way. I feel like I'm in high school and a bu y is asking for my lunch money, just a little bit. AITA? Should I go about this differently?

  •  NTA

  • Permit-Extreme-117 Just say "OMG yes, it's so delicious!" while taking another mouthful and offering them none. Straight out ignore them with a smile, while marvelling internally at their pathetic behaviour.

  • StrangerOnReddit NTA. Next time they comment i'd just be like "You always comment on what we are eating but you know, nothing is stopping you from ordering a dessert for yourself too"

  • III-Mastodon-8692 exactly, gotta be quick with the response to nip this behavior

  • fwomaja NTA-it's on them to ask to join. You group isn't exactly helping team morale but y'all aren't doing anything wrong either

  • Roguecamog NTA if you think that any others might be responsible enough to participate, maybe work out a system if someone asks, so that you ensure that it is as easy as possible for others to pay their share, and for whoever is putting the order in. Honestly though, they're more than welcome to figure out their own system of ordering in lunch, aren't they? They're just being pissy that someone else isn't paying. Is it clear to others in the office that each person pays their own way in this? (N

  • Francl27 NTA but next time just tell them how much it will cost them.

  • HarveySpevacuum I don't even share dessert with my family....

  •  Why can't the people in the "select group of other coworkers" form their own group and order their own dessert? Con: You have set yourselves up as a group apart from your other coworkers, which causes resentment and could lead to morale issues in your office. Don't be surprised to see this escalate into a "hostile workplace" complaint. Solutions: You could expand the dessert group to include whoever is interested with some rules in place to protect your sanity and pocketbook. Have al

  • wesmorgan1 Nonsense - no HR department or manager is going to put "employees eating food they paid for" into the "hostile workplace" category.

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