18-year-old moves out after his parents kick him out of his room to house relatives, even though he's paying rent: 'My 16, 13, and 12-year-old brothers never had to give up their rooms.'

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  • The young man in this story isn't a kid anymore. He's 18, but his parents have been treating him like chopped liver ever since he was a kid. They have forced him to sleep on the couch for long stretches of time to make room for his extended family. 

    Now that he's 18, he's paying rent to live in his childhood bedroom. He wanted to believe that meant he wouldn't get kicked out of his own room anymore, but that assumption gave his parents too much credit.

  • Man sitting on floor with luggage looking tired

    A young man is moving his stuff out of his parents' house to live with his grandparents.

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  • Am I the bad guy for moving out of my parents house where I was paying rent and without any notice when I was told to give up my room again?

    I (18M) have three younger brothers (16M, 13M and 12M). Our parents were always a little harder on me than them and I know that can be normal sometimes.

  • But something that always drove me crazy is when they were hosting people from my dad's family, I would be the only one asked to give up my room to keep them. People from

  • Man in gray jacket sitting on chair beside window

    A teenage boy's bedroom, where he is often kicked out to make room for more family members. 

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  • dad's family stayed over a lot too. So there were a lot of times I had to sleep on the couch for them. Sometimes I didn't even get much notice. My brothers never had to give up their rooms. In fact if

  • there were more than usual my parents would add blow up beds to my room for them and the guest room would get a mattress or two depending on the situation.

  • It always bothered me and I spoke to my parents about it several times. I thought we had a breakthrough last year when they told me they had not wanted me to feel that way and they would do better.

  • After I turned 18 and started working full time I started paying rent. One of the agreements we came to was there was no more making me give up my room. I told them since I

  • was paying for that room now the least they could do was respect that. This was never formally implemented and it was all just very between family. But what happened? A

  • bunch of family visited a month ago and my parents told me to give up my room for them to have space. When I tried to stand my ground and also talk to them about it they told me it was their decision it was their house.

  • Instead of just accepting it I called my grandparents on mom's side and I asked if they had room for me and were okay with me moving in. They said yes

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    Grandparents are allowing their grandson to move into their house.

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  • immediately and they came over to pack me up and move me in. My parents thought it was a joke until they saw all my stuff being brought out to my grandparents car. My

  • parents told me I couldn't just leave and I was paying rent so I needed to give them real notice. I told them if I was kicked out of the space I was renting then I was just going to leave.

  • Ever since my parents have been telling me to move back in and they said it was childish to move out in such an overdramatic way. They told me I left the family members who were visiting feeling awkward and like they were intruding. AITAH?

  • WishingDandelions NTA- Honestly you handled that really well. You didn't yell, you didn't cause a scene, you just found other arrangements and left. Very adult if you ask me.

  • keyden00123 OP Thank you. I saw no reason to make a bigger deal out of it. We had enough fights over the years about this topic. Only now I have the ability to do something about the unfairness.

  • MsMourningStar And that's what they don't like, that's why they're so upset. They lost their ability to control you and treat you worse than your siblings because you're old enough and have enough money and support to do something about it now. Don't go back.

  • BlueMoonTone They lost the rent money. I'm sure they would have been happy with a spare room for the relatives, but now that their extra income is lost, they're devastated. Too bad.

  • Any-Expression2246 ΝΤΑ Even though you don't have a legal lease, they are being AH's. They also sound like they only care about your money, so that doesn't help their case at all.

  • keyden00123 OP They make me think that too. I feel like it's like 90% the money and 10% how they look to other people. Because people will notice the distance between us now and I won't be pretending everything is fine between us if asked.

  • HawkwardGames NTA. They can't have it both ways. Either it's their house and their decision, in which case you're free to decide you don't want to live there anymore, or you're paying rent for that room and they respect that space. Expecting you to pay rent, then still kick you out of your own room whenever guests arrive, is ridiculous. Moving out wasn't childish. It was the natural consequence of them ignoring the one boundary you asked for.

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