Boss calls employee's wife at 5:50 AM over a broken machine, employee demands he apologize to his wife: 'This was unacceptable behavior.'

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  • Young woman illuminated by phone screen at night

    A woman answers a phone call from her husband's boss in the middle of the night, afraid that something horrible has happened to him.

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  • If you've ever woken up in the middle of the night to a call, you've probably thought that the worst had happened. Even the most emboldened workaholics usually refrain from calling their coworkers or employees at 3 AM, both because they don't want to disturb their slumber and because they don't want them to freak out and think a crisis is afoot. 

    Not all emboldened workaholics care about their employees sleeping 8 hours or keeping their cortisol low. Some of them are willing to call their employees and family members at the crack of dawn over a minor problem. The boss in this story is one of those workaholics. 

  • Am I the bad guy for telling my boss to apologize to my wife?

    My boss called twice at 550am. I was in the BR. After I didn't answer, he called my wife, at 555am, and woke her up to get me. She later told me that

  • she was super freaked out thinking something happened to me, she had no idea, in the moment, if I was home or not.

  • A man getting injured at work

    A man gets injured at work: his wife's worst nightmare.

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  • It was over a customer machine that was "not working" that I was programming the day prior.

  • A person is using a tablet on a conveyor belt

    An employee fiddles with an allegedly "broken" customer service machine.

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  • I rushed in and it was indeed working, albeit they suffered some down time on 3rd shift.

  • I called him out in an email and said this was unacceptable behavior and demanded an apology to my wife.

  • Am I absolutely crazy? To me, it's common sense to wait until 7am or 8am, unless it's literally a matter of life and death.

  • Kwickpick77 NTA. I assume your boss has your wife's number as an emergency contact. Those exist to contact loved ones in the event there is an emergency involving you. This is highly inappropriate professional behavior.

  • Traditional_Put_8254 Exactly. I had my husband's boss call me once only because he was an hour late (for a meeting they forgot to tell him about) and they were worried he got into a wreck when he wasn't answering his phone (he was playing basketball). That was justified use of my number, but OPS boss would have been hearing from me directly about that apology at approximately 4 am the next day

  • Altoidman33 Why does your boss have your wife's number? EMERGENCY contact (read: EMERGENCY)? You have every right to be upset. NTA

  • Big_It Yeah I'd be opening an investigation with HR as to why the f my boss was using an EMERGENCY number for a non emergency and only after 5min of you not answering. Like sh, people drive and don't have blue tooth to talk while driving, other shower (or shin this case), others may simply not hear the phone. 5min lapse is a pitiful period and they're using private information for non emergency

  • eugeneugene My old manager called me in for OT because something was going wrong and I was the only person who worked there long enough to know what to do (he didn't know what to do either). So I set off, 30 min drive, but I got stuck at a train on the highway. When I didn't get there 30 min later he called my husband. I didn't have hands free in my car and my phone was in my purse in the backseat so I had no idea anyone was calling me. I got there ten minutes later and when I grabbed my purse I

  • had 20 missed calls, one from my husband. My boss started chewing me out for being "late". I just got back in my car and drove home after texting my husband that I was okay. When I got home I sent an email to my boss's boss and CCd HR and blocked my bosses number and went back to my day off lol. Yelling at me for being "late" when I literally just got called in then using my emergency contact to harass my husband too... lol. He got in so much trouble.

  • aleronick247 OP For some added clarity, It's a small company, he's one of three owners, I've been there >10y. We are friendly & been to each other's kids grad parties etc. Work has called her for work related stuff before, when I've been out of commission but never at ridiculous times of the day and I never cared. If it were any time after 8am, I would not have a problem with it, at all.

  • treehuggerfroglover You should care. Unless they are paying her too she should not have to be fielding calls from your job. That's either boundary issues on their part or yours. But either way it should absolutely bother you that they are calling her for work things when she doesn't work there. That's ridiculous. For your wife's sake, you need to put a stop to this.

  • backupb I work for a small company too, and the lack of boundaries is maybe the biggest problem. It's Saturday and I've been off all day because of the nonsense texts I woke up to. It's really not okay that they do this to us.

  • ConfidenceNext6385 I'm in North America and I had a boss in Hong Kong. I always answer my work cell phone. For some reason he decided to call my home landline at 2am. I later called him out on it privately. I said the landline is for family emergencies only and don't call it again. He didn't, and he was let go before I was so I win, I guess.

  • AnotherRandomDFF This happened to me actually about 15 years ago. My husband is in tech and the "go to guy". He was in the shower and I was asleep. I worked nights at an ER vet, and used to stay up and have breakfast with him and then go to bed. I had just gotten to sleep when I heard his cell ring, then his work cell, then his cell followed by the work phone. Our landline then rang, I answered it "Someone better be de d." The guy was not his boss, or anyone that he reported too, let's call him

  • was unprepared for my greeting and had the balls to tell me I shouldn't answer the phone like that before he identified himself. Very full of himself, old Rick was. He asked after my husband and I said he's in the shower, and to leave him a message on his work cell and my husband would get back to him. Rick didn't like that very much and told me to go get him. That went over like a in church. I reiterated that he needs to call my husband's phone and hung up.

  • I went into the bathroom to tell my husband I was going to this coworker of his and he handled it. He went to HR, his boss and Rick's boss, and it was explained to Rick that he was out of line. I went to have lunch with the office a few days later at the local shawarma place, and Rick was there. Best lunch ever, he couldn't even look at me.

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