Boss makes assistant cry because she ordered steak and dessert during a business lunch with a client: 'The client and I both ordered burgers and fries. The client and I both said no to dessert.'

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• Am I the bad guy for speaking to my overweight assistant about her business lunch food choices and making her cry?

  

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• In any normal social situation where you're eating out with people, nobody would think twice about ordering something different than everyone else. It's understandable to opt for a cheaper entrée when your friend is buying you dinner. I still cringe at myself for ordering a soda when my friend's parents were paying for my dinner, since they all just ordered water with their meals. But you'd assume your boss buying you lunch wouldn't have the same hangups as a frugal family. If your company is footing the bill, why wouldn't you consider ordering something you wouldn't usually buy? That's why I always order steak burritos during the company lunch. I am not liberal enough with my spending to regularly buy myself steak.

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• I can't help but feel bad for Amy. She's not trying to put words in her boss's mouth. She feels attacked and criticized for doing something as simple as eating a large lunch and dessert. She has probably faced no shortage of hardship due to her weight throughout her life. The general public is far less likely to comment and criticize how skinny people eat. You could order the biggest entree on the menu, and if you're skinny, nobody will feign "concern" about your health. Amy has probably been criticized many times for her food choices by people who weren't trying to help her the way her boss was. If she has a history of people micromanaging her food choices because she's fat, it's no wonder that she'd assume her boss was doing the same thing.

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• Getting spaghetti all over your shirt is so much worse than what Amy did. Not to mention, she allegedly ate too slowly, which is a whole lot better than eating too fast, getting food all over you, and looking like a slob.

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