27-year-old spends $100K worth of inheritance from his grandma, demands his single mom give him her $600K condo

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    Irresponsible young man who wants his mom's inheritance now, before she passes away.

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  • The son in this story has blown through hundreds of thousands of dollars of his own money and his grandmother's inheritance, and now he wants his mom to give him his inheritance early. His mom is still relatively young, so the idea that she should give him a $600K condo because he asked for it is just ludicrous. 

  • Would I be the bad guy if I did not give my 27-year-old son (my only child) his inheritance now?

    I saved all of his acting money since he was 2yrs old then he turned 18 and told me he wanted his money.

  • I told him he wasn't mentally ready to have $50k and he told me he would sue me for it so I gave it to him.

  • Sure enough he blew through it with nothing to show. He joined the military, completed his contract and got

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    Soldiers walking in formation. 

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  • I thought he showed some maturity so I thought it was time to give him his inheritance from my mother; $100k ($50k in cash & $50k in TESLA stock).

  • Unbeknown to me he payed off his credit cards with $50k EYE ROLL! Now he wants me to sign over a condo I planned to leave him as an inheritance so he can move he & his pregnant girlfriend in.

  • Beige couch and armchair in condominium

    Beautiful condominium worth $600K that the son wants for him and his girlfriend to live in.

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  • It's worth $600k & I owe $220k with current tenants living in it. I may be able to retire at 55 in 4yrs if it makes sense for me financially.

  • If it doesn't I have to retire at 60 in 9yrs. If at any point I might need money I'm scared I won't be able to rely on him if he pulls the equity out or sells it for himself.

  • I do not care for his GF and foresee nothing but problems (I will make a separate post)

  • I've always helped my son and made it a point to be the rock he can lean on being raised by a single mother.

  • Both my parents have passed and he has never had contact with his father's side. I've always unrealistically thought if I looked out for him he would look out for me but when he gets upset with me he yells and screams at me, icing me out and making me feel disposable.

  • I am the first to admit I've made a MILLION mistakes and have never been perfect but I've always made it clear to my child I love him unconditionally and always put him first even above myself.

  • TYIA \*living in Los Angeles, it's hard to get started on your own & VERY expensive, that's the only reason I considered signing it over to him solely to take on the loan w/his VA benefits.

  • \*this has been very therapeutic and eye opening. I have decided to say no but offer it as a rental.

  •  I've thought long & hard about how you talk to me when you're not getting your way LV may be a better option for you both that way my feelings won't keep getting hurt & I won't be in your business on a regular bases (if at all) but that's all up to you Tyler I am willing to allow you to rent the condo because I fear she will try to sue for anything in your name if things go south I want you both to be successful parents together for the child's sake & maybe that doesn't include me I

  • Thank you all again for my therapy session

  • dROpTaStlc_13 NTA. He sued you at 18, blew $50k, then blew another $50k on credit card debt, and now wants the condo that's your retirement cushion? Absolutely not. Love doesn't mean bankrupting yourself for someone who screams at you when he doesn't get his way. Keep the condo.

  • Illustrious-Bed-9540 Original Poster's Reply He *threatened to sue. Thank you for the comment

  • Witty_Commentator And twice in her post, she said she is hoping he'll help financially if she gets in a bind, too. A child doesn't owe parental support.

  • Illustrious-Bed-9540 Original Poster's Reply Then I owe him nothing

  • srirachaLotsa She could live another 40+ years! She needs to plan for her future with zero help from her son.

  • Illustrious-Bed-9540 Original Poster's Reply I'm realizing this now

  • Letstalk2230 He sounds like a spoiled AH. He said he would sue you for money you put into savings for him? Wow! This is not a person who is going to take care of you when you're old. You need to look out for yourself. Personally, if my kid said something like that, I'd leave everything to a charity, or the state even. What a

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  • not-your-mom-123 Plus all his own earnings. Sorry she raised a loser, but it's past time to cut the umbilical cord.

  • Illustrious-Bed-9540 Original Poster's Reply I just told him no

  • ShotApplication7568 As difficult as it is to realize and accept, your son has been unable to do for himself financially thus far so it would be foolish to think for a second he'll be able to do for you at any point. What's going to happen to him when you're gone? Even tho it will be very painful for you to do, it's time to take the training wheels off and step back. Insist he figure things out on his own. When he fails, do not rescue him.

  • Illustrious-Bed-9540 Original Poster's Reply I think it's time

  • Minds-Eye_C12H22011 OP is still alive. Since this is the case, everything still belongs to her. He is just asking for her stuff. She can decide to gift it or not, as her circumstances dictate. But there is no obligation and if he gets upset with OP for not giving him a gift, he is using her and needs some time apart to grow up. I hope OP can find peace with him. Screaming at someone is not ok, and he should be apologizing and working to change his reactions and behaviors ETA typo

  • Illustrious-Bed-9540 Original Poster's Reply He has not yet

  • trilliumsummer And at least 4 of that was in the military where pretty much all of his needs were taken care of so any spending of his salary or debt was on wants.

  • Illustrious-Bed-9540 Original Poster's Reply Stationed in San Diego, clubs every weekend

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