Mother declines woman’s "party of five" RSVP to her daughter’s birthday party after she invited only one of the woman’s kids to the paid-per-head venue

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• AMTJ because I don't want people bringing "extra" kids to my kid's party

  

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• Paying per head at a venue, scraping together the money for a package that covers a specific number of kids, and then getting an RSVP that casually announces a party of five is one of those moments where you have to read the message a second time just to make sure you understood it correctly. Nobody is sneaking extra adults into a wedding by replying that they are bringing the whole extended family. The social contract around invited guests is not that complicated. And yet here we are.

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• The part that really deserves attention is that this has apparently happened before, at a park, where random children would run up and grab food and the parents would then get angry when they were not accommodated. So this is a pattern. A documented, recurring pattern of parents treating other people's carefully planned and budgeted children's parties as a drop-in community event. The host is expected to feed, entertain, and absorb the cost of whoever happens to show up, and if they cannot do that, they are the problem.

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• Putting the details in the group message was just information delivered in advance instead of awkwardly at the door. Here is what is covered, here is what is not, plan accordingly. That is about as reasonable as communication gets. The alternative is saying nothing, hoping nobody shows up with uninvited siblings, and then having to turn kids away in person while their parents film it for social media.

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• An eleven-year-old asked for one birthday party at a fun venue, and her parents made it happen despite genuinely tight finances. The only people who could make that feel complicated are the ones who showed up with extra kids anyway.

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