Job seeker ghosts hiring manager for role that pays $30k more, she becomes his boss 3 years later: 'I am no longer interested in working here'

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  • Male and female businesspeople sit at opposite ends of a couch shaking hands, a laptop on the coffee table in front of them

    Male and female businesspeople sit at opposite ends of a couch shaking hands, a laptop on the coffee table in front of them

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  • An individual in the nonprofit sector faced a stressful period three years ago when searching for a new job while moving location and going through a divorce. He initially accepted a role that he believed he was underqualified for, but then abruptly left it behind when he got an offer for a better paid job.

    He remembered this incident once again when his current company acquired a new CEO, who happened to be the hiring manager for that job he had rejected back then. Reporting directly to her, he was anxious about how to address the interaction between them when she was in her previous role.

  • Ghosted a hiring manager that is now my boss

    I just am posting this hoping people enjoy my professional f up. About 3 years ago I moved into my current location. I had to move rather abruptly and needed a job in my field asap. I applied to a job that was easily well below my qualifications. I accepted it and signed for it. It was a 2 year commitment and I figured I could just bounce after that.

  • About two weeks later I got a job that pays 30k more. I was not expecting this. I immediately accepted it. I sent a rather abrupt email to the hiring managers assistant of the old job saying "I am no longer interested in working here. thanks"

  • it was rode and unprofessional. She called me 3 times and I never answered. I definitely fed them over and never really gave a reason. At the time, I was mid divorce/move and was not really thinking about the smallness of my industry or long term relationships. I just needed money and job (And it turns out, therapy)

  • fast forward three years, our work just got a new CEO... it's the hiring manager I ghosted 3 years ago. I report directly to them

  • Im currently on extended leave and I'm 100% not looking forward to our 1 on 1 meeting on my return. Fortunately my last name changed, but my first name is very unique and my work history is also unique. I'm 100% sure she will put it together anyways. that's all. enjoy!

  •  to clarify, I work in nonprofits. the Hiring Manager was also the VP of the last org. it's not like this was a large tech industry thing

  • Male and female businesspeople sit on a couch opposite another businessman, who is speaking while they listen

    Male and female businesspeople sit on a couch opposite another businessman, who is speaking while they listen

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  • Historical-Whole-153 IF she brings it up, tell her that time was a very rough period for you, and explain that you've experienced a lot of growth in your professional and personal maturity since then. Then. set about proving it to her while also applying for other jobs (just in case).

  • Construction Much802 Will they even remember??

  • Csherman92 When you meet her, apologize for the ridiculous situation and why you had to leave. You were going through a divorce! Its kind of understandable

  • Sonoran RoadRunner Just tell them you were going through divorce, it's very stressful.

  • MamaMiaXOX Don't say anything unless she does. The odds of her remembering are slim to none. If she says something just apologize and say that you were going through several life changes at the time and weren't yourself.

  • debirdiev If she even remembers you, and even less likely brings it up, just be honest. "I was going through a divorce, life was stressful, and I needed as much income as possible to bounce back on my feet. I didn't handle that situation

  • as well as I should have and fully acknowledge I was wrong. I hope we can work well together in this new setting" done. Ez

  • Lazydayvelvetteen Oh who cares. You know how often hiring managers ghost others?

  • oldlexus570 Tell her you got the offer to work where she works now too

  • Own_Credit9508 You don't need to apologize for something you did at a different company neither of you work for anymore. Are you planning to go back to it? We are all human and we have to make decisions for ourselves. That woman has made

  • rocky decisions too. She shouldn't expect an apology from you for something that happened under different employment, and if she puts two and two together and brings it up, it's unprofessional on her end. She doesn't work for them anymore, so why does it matter? If

  • she holds that moment against you at your current job of 3 years, shes the unprofessional one. If the shoes were reversed, would you hold it over her head? What if she was reporting to you now and not you to her? It wouldn't even bother you. If she brings it up, cut it off. That moment has nothing to do with now.

  • Straightwad lol that's not anything you did wrong, a better opportunity came up and you sent an email saying you were no longer interested. It happens. Unlikely she even remembers you or holds a grudge.

  • These Rule7995 "Ahhh okay I see you have met my twin. Honestly he/she has always struggled with responsibility in their whole life and I've always had to pick up the slack at home when we we kids."

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